When does the pain go away....?

momofZaneandWyatt · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 12:39 pm Post subject: When does the pain go away....?

When does the pain start to go away? When will the emptiness start to fade? It has been 20 days since my boy Zane has been gone....

Pictures of him are everywhere, his collar hangs in the truck, sometimes I think I hear his footsteps...knowing that I am probably just wishing that it were true.

I look at poor Wyatt and keep telling him to hang on, mom will find him a new brother or sister..we try to be strong, we try to be happy...but no matter what time of day it is, missing Zane is always a part of the day. I have had other dogs, I have had other pets in my lifetime, but no dog has ever touched my heart like he did...Wyatt is filling the holes in Bill and my heart, I watch him like a hawk, if something bad were to happen to him.. I could seriously say we would die inside here.

I sit and read the post, I smile at the pictures of all the Weimies out there, sometimes one catches my eye, it reminds me of my Zane, it helps to talk to everyone on here, it helps to read about all the stories and posts, today just happens to be a rough day...so I thought I would write...

Shannon, Bill and Wyatt

NenaGunther · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 12:48 pm Post subject:

Shannon, Bill and Wyatt,

I feel so bad that you are having a rough day. Crying or Very sad

There are days that I'll be driving to work and the tears well up in my eyes, because I miss our Simon. Its been over a year since we lost him.

I think Gunther has helped us through, probably because he has had so many issues to deal with, our attention has been re-focused.

Try to remember all the good times with Zane, he will always be with you.

rejoh0605 · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 12:53 pm Post subject:

I to am very sorry that you are having a hard day. It hurts me to hear your pain because I know that one day we will all have to deal with the loss of our beloved friends. I hope that things start going better for you and remember that you guys are always in our thoughts and prayers. Your story has made me appreciate the time we have with Wilson even more, we always give him extra love and attention.

wrigleys · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 1:04 pm Post subject:

I am so sorry to hear that today is a bad day for you...I have been wondering how you have all been dealing with Zane's passing. I cried as a I read your post b/c I can tell you really loved your boy and that he meant a lot to you....I am sure he knew that. I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a pet b/c Wrigley is my first but I know what a difference he makes in my life and I can't imagine him not there. Stay strong for Wyatt and know that Zane was a happy boy when he was here and you did everything you could possibly do to make his life wonderful!!! Some lucky puppy will steal a spot in your heart soon!!!!

iris · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 1:05 pm Post subject:

Shanon,
I am so sorry dear.....i know this is hard, trust me when i say that even though we all never met Zane we all still think about him and wonder how you and your family are hanging on. It was his destiny even though it might be hard to hear or understand. It will get better with time, but time will never fade him memory in your hearts!
We love you guys and are still thinking of you.

ChuckDC · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 1:19 pm Post subject:

In time, it fades. It does get less, though at times things happen that bring it back again. It's been 4 years now since my Max went to the Bridge. Crying or Very sad

I still miss him some, but I honor his memory in the rescue work that I do.

Sometimes one of the rescue dogs I work with does something that brings it all back to me, though. They'll do some of those odd quirky things that are special to our Weims. I'd like to think that that is Max giving me a message of sorts. Not all of our Weims are the same, though they often look so much alike, it's their personality that shines through. That's why it's so striking when one of them does something memorable. Keep those memories alive within yourself, as Zane will always be alive within you so long as you do.

weimdawgs · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 1:52 pm Post subject:

I am so sorry..I know how much you miss Zane. I can't imagine how much it must hurt.

All our love to you, Shannon..and Bill and Wyatt, too.

Lynn

Heart

Zane Grey

Trene · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:19 pm Post subject:

you're making me cry. Sorry you're sad.

aly · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:26 pm Post subject:

Shannon, my Grandma once said to me that when we feel like we are missing a loved one or suddenly stop what we are doing and remember they are not there it is because they have walked into the room to watch us for a moment. Zane will always be with you and Bill and a small part of him lives on in the puppy that he helped you raise. In time he will send you in the right direction to find a new sibling for Wyatt, until then remember the good times you spent with him, to grieve is natural and each person does so for differing amounts of time. The day will come when you look at his picture and remember with smiles instead of tears and your heart will no longer be heavy with sadness.

XXX

Phoenix1705 · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:27 pm Post subject:

I dread the day I face your pain first hand. I hope your healing gets better as time goes by, sooner rather than later. Much love and happy thoughts to all three of you!

weimdogmom · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:36 pm Post subject:

I am sorry you're having a rough day... Those days will gradually get farther and farther apart. They never completely go away, but the pain does soften in time, so it's not as sharp and gets to be more deep longing to have them back again.

You have lots of pictures of Zane and wonderful memories to treasure. It may not seem like it now, but soon those things will bring a smile thinking about silly things. And Zane will always have that special place in your heart.

I know what you mean about hearing those familiar footsteps... Not too long after one of our kitties left, I was sure I saw her walking in a room I was in; and I heard Jessie walking down a hall to the place she loved to nap.

Zane wouldn't want you to feel sad. He would love to know you remember him, and that you treasure the love and happiness he brought to all of you and that still is with you now.

Christina · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:41 pm Post subject:

I am also very sorry you are having a hard day. I can't even begin to say that I know how you are feeling. We have lost 3 cats in the past, but I have a feeling the loss of a dog is going to be so much worse. Time heals the heart. He will always be with you. Have you maybe thought of doing a scrap book or something like that? Over time you might forget some of the funny things that he used to do and it might help you move forward.

Hang in there....

peppernaei · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:42 pm Post subject:

I'm so sorry you are sad. Give yourself the time to grieve and it will get better with time.

Just over two years ago, I had to say goodbye to my childhood horse. She meant the world to me and growing up I told her everything. She loved me unconditionally and I trusted her with my life - at times I would even sleep in her stall. Afterwards, I thought I was broken in a million pieces and I'd never be fixed. At times, I carried a heaviness in my chest that made it hard to breathe. To help, I kept myself really busy as the quiet times were the hardest. Some time has passed and I can honestly say it is easier - although typing this has been hard. Now, I generally think of the happy times, how much I learnt from her and how happy I had the time with my dearest Lady. I still believe no horse will ever measure up and I'm not ready to add another to my life - so I got a Weimy instead.

May your heart find peace and comfort in the happy memories of Zane and may the sun shine on you, Bill and Wyatt. My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow.

greydogs · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 3:41 pm Post subject:

dear shannon, i am sorry that you are missing zane so much today. two years ago, ziggy left us after more than 14 years. my heart was broken, even though it was a release for her.
about 6 months later, lakshmi arrived, and i feel ziggy sent her to us. sometimes, i see ziggy in lakshmi. lakshmi will all of a sudden seem bigger (zigy's size). i say "hello ziggy" and it makes me happy.

grief takes time and needs to run its course. about a year after ziggy left, i felt this remarkable change, as if there was more space. she is still with us, but the pain of the loss is smaller.

thinking if you and sending lots of love.

Howard · Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 8:46 pm Post subject:

I know how you feel. Today is 2 months that Howie has been gone. Wow, hard to believe. Tucker has helped to fill the void but by no means take his place. I still cry daily and miss him with everything I do that we used to share as our special time. The only comfort we take is that this pain is part of the healing process and part of the deep love we have for our animals. With great joy comes great sorrow. Lots of hugs to your family.